Val
I can understand that you are frustrated that a conference turns into a bash fest. Have you talked to DH about this - and asking him to not contribute to it. I think its important to go and hear the teachers take on it, especially it you are gearing up for an IEP, since she is involved.
Is this the standard 10-15 minute meeting? I don't find those terribly useful. But it is important to show involvement.i think it's fine if only one parent is there but only if you are on the same page with DH.
DeHe
