Parent-teacher conferences are tomorrow at 9. About an hour ago, my son's teacher sent an unhappy email saying that DS had got most of his 20-ish math homework problems wrong, even though he had been doing the same type of problem in class "with no problem." She assumed that he doesn't understand the topic and is wound up about him.
I strongly suspect that my son has a 2E issue (dysgraphia). This has been discussed with his teacher and we're all going to an assessment meeting next week.
He had a ton of work to do last night, and was working diligently for 2+ hours. He did math last because it was easiest. I was tired and forgot to check his worksheet. My bad. IMO after working with him most nights, he understands this stuff well. I suspect that he made the same mistake repeatedly last night because he was tired and the tiredness was compounded by his writing difficulties.
Here is my quandary: during past conferences, the teacher and my husband would get wound up and start dumping on my son. The last time, I told them I was fed up with listening to them complain about his perceived inadequacies. I am also fed up with being the one who does nearly all the work to find and implement solutions.
Seeking opinions on this:
I'd like to opt out of the conference. I doubt that it will be constructive, and fear that when the dump-on-DS stuff starts, I'll get angry. I don't want to do that. I do not want a confrontational aggressive conference where everyone walks away angry. Yet my back is up right right now and I recognize that I might speak more aggressively than necessary.
I'm dubious about getting through to either party. Furthermore, I wonder if ignoring the conference might be best for both my son and myself. If I'm not going to change anything and if I work with him at home, why bother? DH can go on his own, right?
Thoughts? Help!
Last edited by Val; 03/07/13 03:26 PM.
