And just to be clear, the message I'm trying to send here is not, "go make a baby."
Oh no. It's not what I meant... I wanted to say that I was eager to find this very thing that would make me feel as complete as some of you appear to be, and less morose concerning future.
My daughter often feels this way. It makes me very sad, because it is not true. But it feels true in her mind. She can see what COULD be, and feels that nothing in real life can be as good, so by comparison it must not measure up to possibility. This is partly her perfectionism; it can really poison a person's thinking about themselves.
I never thought of myself as a perfectionist, but as someone who likes things to be done right. I don't like to bodge neither when people do it. I don't get it.
