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Always listen to polarbear regarding 2E issues (if not everything else)!

We've hovered around issues for my DD since she was about 3.5 she is "exceptionaly gifted" at least but these 2E issues don't fix themselves. 2E kids are the hardest hit with the school system and also probably the most misunderstood and in the case of my DD she gets especially upset when not understood, it makes her feel lonely.

My DD is 9 and this time I am sticking to the neuropsyche eval even if with my new PT job I have to pay for it myself and even if I were to start homeschooling and go from there, I need to understand her better and gain the appropriate approaches!

Moms know best and I've seen the "not quite right" stuff for years. I do alot to help my DD cope on my own (reading, working with her etc.) and have a hard time getting people to listen to me but as she gets older the "not quite right" gets more noticable and you can't write things off as much. And the child loses self-esteem and precious time for appropriate interventions/approaches etc.

Have you had vision checked? My DD used to turn her head away etc. with close up and it hurt her socially and how adults interpreted her behavior but in the end we found out she had double vision at closer range so those comments she made about "seeing four eyes" etc. weren't her active imagination, they were real, and scary to her when she was younger.

Also with the giftedness allowing her to be enough above the other kids (but not aligned with her gifted-level potentials) to get sidelined from Pre-K through 3rd it gets to be a jumble over whether she has some issues due to lack of formal education or neuropsyche issues. For example, writing three letters one on top of another (always vowels) and if you ask her which one she means it to be (her writing is hard to read) she just shrugs - can she not hear the difference, know the difference, why would such a smart child be missing this....and other examples.??

Why does she invent letter styles to allow for it to go "either way" when she isn't sure if it should be upper or lower case? Does she "not care" or hasn't she been able to learn?

Anyway, these super smart kids with...whatevers...I don't like the word "deficit/deficiency" I prefer "differences" if you need to use a "d-word" LOL are tough so continue to be her cheerleader!!

I hope this makes sense. Good luck!