Thanks, everyone, for the reality check. I think we'll follow her lead on facilitating meetings between the two, and just let it play out as it will. This is what I thought I would do all along, but then second guessed myself after being stunned by what a great guy she found.

And Dude, I loved the land mine comment. I had told a few of my friends that as dd's parent, I found living 150 miles away to be a great quality in a boyfriend. It just turned out he has a few other good qualities as well...