ABQMom, thanks so much for your thoughts. You are right about not needing to fix our children but to equip them with tools. Thanks for that reminder!
I think I am just at a weak moment and I'm letting my emotions get the best of me!

Advocating for my gifted 13-year-old son seems to have become a full-time job. Our school system does not have any gifted services except for 3rd, 4th and 5th grade and it is an enrichment one morning a week. My son is not allowed an IEP; there are GEP's for the gifted during the 3 years they are in the program. Regular classroom instruction is all that is available to us right now. No modifications.