To cut off unwanted conversations, "We have carefully considered his educational and social needs, and we put together a program designed to meet those needs."
You would think that would cover it, but...no guarantee.
Just follow your basic problem solving model: gather information, define needs, develop a plan, implement the plan, wait to see how it works, evaluate the plan, define any new needs, wash, rinse, repeat. You're a teacher, you know how to roll with the punches!
I used to live in Taiwan, and I wonder sometimes if American moms wouldn't do better to err on the side of the Tiger Mom. It's definitely a balancing act, but you'll figure it out.
