Well, you don't. Actually, of course no parent ever really knows... but it's worse when your child is not normative, because while everyone (it seems) is willing to tell you in great detail how what you're doing is "damaging" your child...
BINGO. Thank you for that thought. We've long felt like all the usual rules don't apply to this little guy . . . from the word GO he was an utter puzzle. It's a beautiful thing . . . but you're right, it gets confusing when everyone - including several staff members who share a school building with me - pretends to know the risks, realities, and dangers, when truly this is such an unfamiliar territory for most, myself included.