On the private school option -- is there one for kids with dyslexia? You seem to be talking about a specific private school, but I wonder if there's a school in the region that does specialize in these special needs. If it were to come to that (and let's hope it doesn't-- it seems that the present school is ultimately workable if certain structural issues can be worked out) a school focused on the special educational needs is the place you should be discussing.

Pemberly, I haven't commented much, but I've been reading along. Good grief. No person should be treated like this. Thinking of you and your DD. She's lucky to have you on her side.