The good thing is, you have options! Like Cricket said, it's not usually possible to find one perfect fit option for our 2e kids, but trust that you know your ds well and that you'll make a good decision. I too wish we had a hugs smilie!
FWIW, our ds12 just completed 6th grade, which is the first year of middle school here. He asked to change schools so we were in kind-of the same place last summer as you are now (the "kind-of" is that in our case, our ds asked to switch schools, he was extremely frustrated at the school he was at). DS has dyspraxia, dysgraphia, an expressive language disorder, and wanted subject acceleration but had been denied it at his previous school due to his LD. He's great at math and science but extremely challenged with written expression and organizational skills.
We chose a school for him that is private and very small. It was recommended by our neuropsych because it is very technology-friendly and for other nebulous reasons. We didn't really *get* the nebulous reasons until we were there, but I thought I'd mention them to you because once ds was enrolled we found things that we hadn't planned on that were in fact extremely good for ds. For instance, the private school couldn't provide the services listed in ds' IEP (which the public school wasn't really providing anyway) other than ds' classroom and testing accommodations for writing. So on the one hand, that might seem like a red flag - but in reality, what we got with the private school were teachers who truly cared about their students and who were fully invested in developing the students to the best of their potential. When we have a concern as parents, the teaches listen to us. There was also a lot of quick action when any kind of social challenges arose among the students - quick caring action that was aimed at developing good caring citizens, and because it was a small school where the kids have close relationships with the teachers it works fairly well. The school also has a more challenging curriculum overall than the public schools do, as well as allowing kids to subject accelerate in some areas. In the areas where subject acceleration isn't offered, the teachers challenged ds to go above and beyond, and it worked much better than anything he'd previously had simply because the teachers recognized he is exceptionally bright and are proud of it, rather than trying to make him just like everyone else fitting into the middle-average, which was how our public school tried to approach teaching.
Gotta run, but fwiw, that was our experience.
Good luck searching - it can be really scary and confusing trying to know what to do!
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