Originally Posted by lmp
It's not about what I think. It's about the child. Every situation is different.

You can be tall and feel out of place. You can be short and be fine. It's the personality of the child and what they want that matters.

Here, here! Every situation will be different. Except my feelings differ a bit on your last sentence when it comes to young children. I believe what the parent believes is right for their kids should trump what the kids want until the kids are maybe around age 9, for the most part.