You can leave your post here and still post it on your blog. I was unsure because I asked when we were working on lucounu's gifted wiki project. The answer is yes, you keep the rights to put your words in a forum and in a blog and in a wiki, as long as the words you're "sharing" are your own. I think they said if you copy your own post into the gifted wiki it was called "gifting". I guess. That's the way I understood it. Also it's bad form to delete stuff from your forum posts because it changes the conversation. It's fine to edit for clarity, edit to add new information, or post that you've changed your mind. AFAIK.
On topic, my boy was born grown. He sat nicely in a restaraunt in a chair or lap, never a high chair. He just always acted so grown up. Then we got a baby girl. OMG the boy acts like a boy now!! It comes and goes weither he's a rude pest or excellent child. I mean stuff like interrupting me on the phone. The American brand parenting books I'm trying to osmosize are "the nurtured heart workbook" and "playful parenting". They both suggest his "annoying pest" days are because his "cup" is feeling low. (energy, love, self-worth).
An old Cherokee told his grandson, "My son. There is a battle between two wolves inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, jealousy, inferiority, resentment, lies, and ego. The other is Happiness, kindness, empathy, and truth.
The boy thought about it and asked, "Grandpa, which one wins?"
The old man quietly replied, "The one you feed."
It's an old wives tale. But the New American Parenting that nurtures the self-esteem that these articles are referring to are based on "feeding" the beast that you want your kid to be during the good times so it grows larger. Eek! Not sure what to do with the bad times yet. I think "feeding the good wolf" during the good days is a large part of the success of the Superior Chinese and French Parenting paradigms as well. Has to be. Seems like the (fictitious) French handle the bad wolf days by not losing their cool, and the (fictional) Chinese handle the wolf days with a taser and a cage. And the lowly Americans with tears and empty yelling. Yeah, it happens.
On a personal note, I'm stuck trying to implement the American way when my preschooler pushes my toddler. And I yell when he interrupts the toddler's nap too many times, too many days in a row. Obviously she doesn't go to sleep instantly. Some weeks he tries to keep her awake. Stuff like making fun-sounding noises in the hallway. Help me out here, nurtured heart crowd. We usually do something just me & him when she sleeps, usually his choice. He does this intentional. These two things are my biggest buttons on the "negative energy reward."
