Yes, and we do promote that, within reason and where it is actually developmentally appropriate.
An analogy that I like here is to consider the benefits of teaching a child to "wait your turn."
Suppose that the "wait" in question is a line that is an hour long, with dozens of people in line ahead of us. Well, that might be a perfectly appropriate thing with a seven year old (well, some seven year olds, anyway-- mine would have been fine with that), and well within age norms for a child of 10 or older. Not so much with a two year old, no matter how appropriate the
activity/event itself might be at the end of that wait.
In that instance, it would be much more appropriate for that asynchronous child for parents (or a group of adults) to tag-team and hold a spot in the line, so that the 2yo wouldn't be stuck there continuously, but rather get to 'practice' that waiting skill in shorter bursts (10 min, not 60).
I hope that makes sense. It's not that the wait is "wrong." It is what it is, and yes, the real world requires us to adjust to it, and not the other way around. But it also isn't
possible for the 2yo to learn patience from that particular exercise, just in general terms.
I'd also argue that it flatly isn't possible for most 8yo to learn the value of 'just do it' when they knew perfectly well how to do two hours of math homework for precalc when they
started the evening.
