Oh geeeeez...

So we had the classroom observation the other today and the official conference today. Both his teacher and the school director were rather blunt in telling us that no public school - no matter how great it's reputation - would be able to accommodate our son. They weren't even trying to sell us on the Montesorri because they told us that they didn't know how much longer they'd be able to accommodate our son either. The director said we may need to consider a private gifted school (the same one we were already considering - she offered this without prompting).

For now, in this moment, the kids are doing well there and that is good enough for now.

One major area of concern is that my son seems to have no interest in the other children whatsoever. He like the adults and interacts well with them. He doesn't push or hit the other kids, he just doesn't care about them. He doesn't even know most of their names. One of the kids in the class said today "he can read big books and counts in the thousands but he doesn't know our names?" like just not understanding.

So I am very concerned about his social development and well being. They told me that kids that are as advanced as him (they said "the kind of kids that can go to college when they are 12") often struggle socially. They are hopeful that it will improve with time. He is only 3-years-old so a lot can change developmentally in the next year or two.

Anyway... we are feeling a bit shell shocked right now. I had wondered if public schools would just be out of the running, but to hear it put so bluntly was disheartening. We are visiting and touring a public school next week to get a feel for what sort of accommodations they can make there. To say there is no public school anywhere that could accommodate our son seems a bit harsh. Right?

We are also worried about our son's social development. He plays well with his younger sister, but otherwise he definitely prefers interacting with adults instead of other kids. I don't know if this is a giftedness issue or if it just a personality one. I know there are a lot of "typical" kids that are similar in that regard. We try to keep him involved and give him opportunities to make friends. (Swim lessons, little pre-sports clubs, playdates, etc.) I don't know what else we can do. Any ideas?

We are now wondering if we will be needing to keep the kids at montesorri longer or send them to the private school. Both obviously cost money. We can make it happen, but WOW - you guys are absolutely right that having gifted kids is expensive!! Mine aren't even school age yet!

Someone, anyone, please just reassure me that things will be OK! I pray my son can make a friend soon. It makes me sad to think that he is already becoming isolated from his peers.

Thanks for listening - this board is a lifesaver. I know I'll be continuing to rely on this place for advice/guidance/slaps in the face (when needed). Thank you.