We have our son in a typical preschool. He's there mainly for "socialization" and to learn to listen to other adults.
Is this how the whole self-enforced dumbing down starts? Will he be without answers when it counts (tests)? How do I explain he knows something the teacher has asked when he just stands there with a blank look?
Ametrine
If what you are seeing is from performance issues than in the suggestions about asking questions will help. Our teachers used to send home a what we did this week newsletter to help parents ask targeted questions. Oh, what color was the duck you painted kind of thing. I found that could be helpful.
But like kcab and grinity say the real question is - are you asking this question because you are concerned he doesn't show what he knows or because you are worried the environment is wrong. I had my ds in a preschool which over the course of the year went from great to wholly inappropriate due to his exponential change in LOG. We were limited in options both to get him somewhere else and to get the teachers to understand. I was slow to understand because DS was relatively silent such when he finally shared how the kids were treating him it was a shock and turned out to be very difficult to undo.
You sent him there for socialization, maybe you need to ask questions about that. Are the kids playing with him, do they understand what he is saying, are they interesting to play with.For my DS the answer to those q's was all no - the teachers solutions to it was to think DS needed to modify his behavior and to some extent who he was - it wasn't until we got to camp this summer at another preschool that we realized he could have been helped in a much more substantive way which built up his self esteem rather than damaged it.
So as with anything parenting, could be something, but could be nothing, just a phase or a clue to a larger picture he can't verbalize yet. Just my depressing 2c!
DeHe
