Hi Ametrine,
I think (and this is just my opinion) that being quizzed (even re sometimg mundane) becomes a source of pressure because their ability to respond is where their value to others ends up lying (or at least that's where the child perceives it as lying) and yet it's not really who they are. They sense it, but they're too young to understand it. Put any amount of perfectionism on top of this and it becomes 'a big deal' to respond - even to something simple.
But isn't that what their future holds? "Performing" is expected throughout life. I have to wonder if our job as parents in this case includes teaching them that even if it's annoying to answer once again, they must do so when asked.
