Has anyone ever done the brain scans for their children? Have you found them to be helpful in understanding where a child might need more support?
Unless you see signs of something like a seizure disorder (not entirely uncommon among people with autism), or a specialist professional recommended this, I don't think it would be useful.
Who diagnosed your child? Do you have a full neuropsychological workup, or are you moving ahead based on information from school professionals? One advantage to the complete battery of tests is that you should get a report that suggests what the school should accommodate, as well as what kinds of therapy they recommend. Our testers gave us tons of information and a good push toward treatment professionals we are still using today.
The full testing workup typically does not include any kind of brain scan-- there would be an IQ test, achievement testing, behavior rating scales filled out by parents and teachers, direct observation of the child, language testing, and sometimes hearing/vision screening. Other tests can be added depending on what they find.
Convincing your husband: this is hard. Some parents hate the thought that anything could be "wrong" with their child, even though denial means the child won't get the help he needs. The OASIS Guide to Asperger Syndrome is a helpful beginner's book, if he's willing to read it and consider it. If not, try to get your husband into situations where your son is with other, NT kids his age. Events like cub scout meetings always throw the oddities of an AS child into fairly sharp focus, for better or for worse.
Hope that helps--
DeeDee
