Don't let homeschooling scare you.
That said, an active, curious HG+ child bored to tears and frustrated and in a class with no intellectual peers can look an awful lot like ADHD and Asperger's to people who don't know any better, and an HG or PG kid with these disorders will exhibit much more extreme symptoms than he or she would in a more appropriate environment. In our experience, the first step is to get rid of the boring and frustrating environment and the lack of intellectual peers and see if the problem behaviors and the social difficulties go away. We are fairly certain we have accurate diagnoses with my DS, but even still, when he is in an engaging environment with intellectual peers, like the kids from the Duke TIP program, or the kids from our local summer Shakespeare group, he blends into the crowd to a much greater extent than he does when he is bored and frustrated. A boring, frustrating environment is bad for gifted kids, it is bad for ADHD kids, and it is bad for Asperger's kids. I can't really imagine that it would be good for very many kids at all.
I really hope that you find a solution that works for your family.
I agree. (My DD also homeschools.)
We are currently working with a neurophyschologist who specializes in AS in kids with IQ's over 135. I would highly recommend someone who "gets" these kids, it can make a world of difference. Gifted children with AS present differently than average children with AS, and you really need someone very knowledgable in that areas to help differentiate the two.
Regardless of a diagnosis it sounds like you are doing what is most important, treating the symptoms. What does the current psychologist recommend?
A few more questions that might help brainstorming, are you in a state with gifted laws? What is the status of the IEP? You said it isn't working, can you elaborate? (My DD has an IEP and has received services from our PS through this year.)
