Someone who's been there before should answer soon, bit until then here's the recommended reading on an appropriate free education :
http://www.ldonline.org/article/Understanding_the_Differences_Between_IDEA_and_Section_504
And the bottom of this chart suggests simple accomidations to request for when your child has innapropriate behavior problems :
http://www.davidsongifted.org/db/Articles_id_10446.aspx
Somebody should offer more advice soon.
I just wanted u to know somebody heard you.

Youth lives by personality, age lives by calculation. -- Aristotle on a calendar