Hi Verona-- When you see the neuropsych, ask him for names of good people who can help you with various facets of treatment, including serving as the person to monitor meds.
Your ped is right that meds are probably over-prescribed-- and yet, to not recognize that depression and ADHD cause real suffering that should be treated seems inhumane to me. People can be unnecessarily dogmatic about the issue of medication; nobody is wildly enthusiastic about medicating a child in theory; but if it helps ease suffering, it may be worth a try IMHO.
FWIW-- Cognitive-behavior therapy also works well for anxiety, depression, and compliance issues; it's not fast, but its effects are lasting and profound.
HTH
DeeDee
