Descongirl, I don't really have any advice. But I just wanted to say that it sounds like an impossibly hard situation to be in. Your poor dd. She certainly does sound very physically gifted (particularly to a mum with a dd who nearly breaks her neck doing somersaults, despite being nearly 5.5) and that kind of self-awareness is certainly very advanced (and must be quite personally devastating, both for her and for you).
It must also be very frustrated to have forked out cash for testing only to find it doesn't match what you're seeing, particularly when you have other places that money could have been spent.
I�m sure someone who can say something more useful than I will come along. In the mean time, (hugs)
