5) Look into 'home day care' perhaps with a homeschooling mom who has a wide variety of age group kids.
I totally agree. We aren't a home daycare but it goes from 0-12 and that has really worked wonders for DD. They also never have any set activities (besides meals and taking them to the park). Sure they'll put music on sometimes or color or whatever but it's always up to the kids if they want to participate and when. I know at least one of her friends was 5+ (not sure of the exact age but he was definitely not a preschooler!) and he seemed very excited to see DD in the mornings. I've seen how she's around kids her own age and it's not pretty... sure she likes them but normally she's running off to do her own thing than play with them but with older kids she's much more engaged.
