Erin ... from what you describe he seems borderline and more in line with gifted with a possible 2E BUT if you are worried and it seems that you are, just get him evaluated. It is peace of mind at the very least. If what is stopping you is your husband I would approach him with the eval as something you need to do for yourself so down the line you won't have guilt if he does in fact have Asperger. As for the idea that the earlier you test the better off he will be ... someone correct me on this but Asperger is the exception to that rule and diagnoses is harder at such an early age. Now Autism is one that the earlier you diagnose the better for the child and though Asperger is under the same umbrella it isn't the same thing.
