I think we have always tended toward the praising for effort rather than result. Recently, however, I have started to think about how dd's school peers probably get a lot more affirmation for their good grades and/or "good girl" behavior than dd would get because she is only praised for effort. She has seemed unsure of herself recently and I am trying to find ways to praise her more - or at least moments to acknowledge when she does behave "correctly." It makes me very uncomfortable to think about right and wrong behavior, but I think kids' behavior is judged all the time - if they are at school - so I'm trying to catch up somehow.

Warning: sleep deprived