Sorry you've hit a bump in the road!

Would the kindergarten teacher let your daughter visit her classroom for a day?

My DS5 started kindergarten at age 4.5 last fall, at a school where "early" enrollment is the norm, and it has been wildly successful. The school didn't require IQ or achievement testing as part of the acceptance process, but they did require that DS spend a full day with the kindergarten class. The visit gave the kindergarten teacher a chance to informally assess his social, behavioral and academic readiness. DS was just 3.5 and in preschool at the time, so the day-long visit to a class that included 6-year-olds seemed a little crazy, even to me, but all went well. At this point, nearly a full year in, I can't imagine having done anything else.