Well, keep in mind that almost nothing in education is irreversible. There are costs to every choice, of course, but kids are resiliant, and if something doesn't work, you can always regroup and try something else.
I think many of us parents are perfectionists in our own right--the apple and the tree being what they are, after all
--and it can become paralyzing if we think we can/must find the "right" answer. Don't get overwhelmed with it. Besides, the "right" answer today possibly/probably won't work in a year or two anyway.
Oh, and if you haven't read this article, you must! It should be mandatory readiing for any parent making these big decisions about school:
http://www.hoagiesgifted.org/least-worst.htm It's a sanity-supporter!
