We are being ultra-consistent in his limitations right now. He does need that; and he knows that we are there for him. We do not lecture in the moment of the meltdown. We do try to talk him down, to express how he is feeling in words, and to make a good choice. Recently I have been saying "this is not my 'his name' "; and he agrees; and it helps. He is a very logical thinking kid. We will talk about his feelings and ours later in a calm time.
The teacher was not abusive; but she postively stepped over teacher/student boundaries with all of "her kids." There was no control over the hitting in the school, as well. It was so out of control. And was our final straw.
As far as counseling goes, I have considered it; but a bad counselor who doesn't undersand our kids could be equally as bad. Thank you!
Last edited by Mom0405; 11/01/09 10:30 PM.
