Hi Grinity

Not sure where DD got it from but my mother was a very empathetic person so perhaps a bit comes from there.
Yes, you are spot on this was a big mistake for DD! I took a risk and I recall at the time, really finding it difficult as I tried to convince myself that perhaps my DD was one that could survive without accomodation in the ordinary classroom - I took the easier option and there was always that uncertainty in the back of my mind - I never felt completely satisfied with my decision. Now I know why!
Thanks Grinity, for taking the time to provide me with your wonderful insight and support with these issues.

Tiz