Welcome Branwen - so glad we are here for you and you found us - yippee!
Here's my hint: Don't listen to anything that the 'talking people' have to say. Insist on sitting in on a classroom. Insist on having their expert teachers sit down with your child and see what they can elicit from her, and what they say about what they observed. You want to see if they can 'see' her, and what they might do with her.
I like the idea of saying Gifted just to see what color they turn, but I think it's much better to just be specific and say, 'For reading she recently enjoyed XXXXXXXX, and in math she just finish learning XXXXXXX. People think that I'm pushing her because of XXXXXXX but she's the one who is pushing me. What can one do with a child like that?
Best Wishes,
Grinity
