1. I'd think about where you bar is set. If you (for example) hang out with lots of other gifted parents and are looking at their children then your view of average is likely skewed.
2. Lots of kids can be asynchronous and I know a few gifted kids who are VERY asynchronous. My DS for example was very speech delayed (as in under 10 words (and I use that term loosely) at 2.5 after several months of speech therapy). There were definitely some gifted traits if you looked closely but I'm sure most would have laughed at me if I had called him gifted back then. He is now 12 and scored well above the DYS cutoff. You'd never know he was delayed all of those years.
3. regardless of IQ, my goal was to expose them to a wide range of ideas, activities, experiences and hope for the best. An IQ is only a piece of the puzzle of who they are and what they might choose to do with it.
