Oh forgot one more: we're pretty liberal on screen time. Their iPads are always available to them... But because of that it's just another toy so often they'll do something else instead. Helps that I have back to back kids so they always have a play mate. Now that they're older they also both know that I believe too much screen time, like candy, is bad, and they know I'll take it away if I think they use it too much. So they adjust accordingly.
When they were younger I still let them use screens or watch TV though... Just for my sanity having 2 under 2. I did monitor it a bit more, but bottom line is don't beat yourself up if she's on a iPad more than you'd like. Nothing is ever perfect, and at least for my DD she honestly does learn best with apps.
