Welcome!
I just want to be sure i'm not pushing her too hard.
I would say no amount of pushing is ok. Pushing is a desire of others for the child to learn something. Follow the child's lead... s/he will let you know what s/he is curious about and interested in learning and doing.
My mom taught me to read early, and is pushing me to start teaching her - so that's part of where my question comes from.
Reading to your child, and pointing to the words as you go sounds great.
If the child wants to, s/he can participate without prompting by holding the book, pointing to words or pictures, turning pages, asking questions, and/or saying words.
Even little kids can be great at
initiating, and this helps them develop a sense of internal locus of control, an important building block toward acknowledging responsibility for their choices and actions.
