bluemagic, you understand what I'm saying. When I say "relaxed", I mean watching Netflix and playing video games. Theater, writing, astrophotography camp. swim lessons, etc. are activities. Perhaps not all are highly structured activities, but they all have value - and they involve something other than sitting on the couch and eating junk food.

We haven't forced our kids to continue activities they don't like. Middle kid hated soccer, so when she was young and still playing rec sports, she played fall ball instead (need to do some sort of physical activity). When they were young, they tried a bunch of different things, and they continued with a few they really enjoyed.