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This is in junior high correct?

Junior High is rough and my experience is principals teachers often have the opposite ends of the stick in this type of thing and issues like bullying.

We had an incidence in 6th grade where my son was considered the aggressor in online bullying. And yes what he he wrote online was inappropriate (how much he disliked certain kids in his class on a class forum), but it was his reaction to the other kids teasing him for months. All that subtle teasing that goes on particularly in junior high by the more socially adept popular kids, is kept just under the radar. They somehow know how to say mean things without it being obvious to outsiders. And when our kids finally snap and react, they often do so with a lot of anger & not a lot of ability to keep it under the radar. This is what makes bullying so tricky and frustrating. The best bullies manage to trick their parents & teachers into thinking they are the good kids.

Don't know how to really help. Just wanted to let you know you aren't alone. Don't think the principal's idea of how to fix this is the right one. Not letting junior high kids sit at lunch with their friends isn't going to help anything. Do you know her friends parents? Sometimes it helps if parents get together as a group in this kind of thing.