For the unexpected, I prepare a few responses for myself in advance:
"This is the first I've become aware of this. Can you tell me more?"
"I wasn't prepared to discuss this today. Can we please meet again soon once I've had a chance to prepare?"
Great advice from geofizz!
One more response I found useful to have ready: sometimes at these meetings you'll find staff/teachers/etc will think they already know the answer to everything based on experience with past students (and please know - I appreciate that there are many times when that past knowledge is extremely helpful and on point..)... but.. if you find that the discussion is going off course based on this type of logic, it's helped me to state simply: "We aren't here to talk about __, we are here to talk about the individual needs of my ds."
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