Thanks blackcat. Basically I concluded there is no great fit for DS, although high school is looking more promising. Complicating the situation is that quick, organized, perfectionist DD is really thriving in the program. Because, you know, it's a good fit for her.

Anyone who meets my two would suspect DS is more "gifted" (he's not, WISC-wise, anyhow). So there you have it...not all gifted programs are open and supportive of 2E students. Big surprise, right?