I think the nuance we encourage in our children is distinguishing respect from obedience or agreement. One shows respect by listening attentively (that would be with one's whole body). One shows respect to adults on the basis of their humanity and their roles, even if it is sometimes difficult to respect this particular specimen. One shows respect by attempting to understand others. Sometimes one even shows respect by obeying directions one does not agree with, as long as they do not violate one's own deeply held principles, or pose a safety hazard. Part of showing respect is gently voicing disagreements with an attitude of understanding the other party's perspective, not in an adversarial manner.
