DD13 expressed a lot of pain and disappointment at the pace of her classes, feeling that the teachers were going too slowly for everyone. I used rarity numbers to explain that the pace might be too slow for her, but was almost certainly not too slow for everyone. Likewise, we explained her low scores as rarities. Even in an area where the average is 1 SD up, she probably gets new ideas faster than anyone else in her grade, but is the slowest in the room at getting it down on paper. Knowing that she was an outlier helped her be kind to everyone she finds at school. She doesn't expect a perfect fit anymore.