Just a thought, as your daughter has expressed misery in both reading as well as writing. As best as I understand, there is a large portion of people (20-30%? It's incredibly high!) who will struggle to learn how to read without explicit phonemic teaching, even though they would not qualify as dyslexic per se. Unfortunately, most schools rely more on implicit, context and sight word approaches. Whether you homeschool or not, you might find it useful to try an Orton-Gillingham-based reading program at home with your DD, something that starts from scratch and teaches every new phonemic step clearly and explicitly.
We are using All About Reading as remediation for a grade 3 dyslexic, but the program is set up to be a starter learn-to-read program for anybody. It's fully scripted and easy for a parent to use at home. A big benefit for DD was that by going back to absolute scratch and teaching every step explicitly, she was always working on reading activities *she was capable of doing*. This was a huge confidence boost, and in only a few months, changed four years of screaming refusal to read a word, into begging for a chance to read to me - from the program materials, where she knew she wouldn't deal with words she had not yet learned how to handle.
Your DD is young, and it may well all kick into place soon without any help. However, a kid who's learned to hate reading and thinks they can't do it may need a lot of support and confidence boosting to get over that fear and negativity. For us, the change in confidence and attitude is extraordinary - the fact that she is starting to learn to read is almost incidental.
