This is a great discussion. Thanks everyone for your input. I will find out over the next couple months how the new school for our kids fits them in practice, it is all looking very promising in theory so far. If we do find the school a good fit, it will only be one more thing on a long list of things we love about where we live that makes it so we never end up deciding to move back closer to family despite how much I miss them. But it will be a very strong thing as it sounds like there are schools out there that can work, but if you find a good one, it's a good idea to stick with it if at all possible.