Thanks Dottie. grin

98th, 99th percentile. That is a tiny part of the population. The school's responsibility is the whole group. They can't expend massive amounts of time and resources catering to 2%. I don't even think that would be right.
But, I am a taxpayer and they do have to be flexible with me in my quest to properly educate my child.
If they can do that, I'm more than happy.
My child, my responsibility. DH and I have the largest stake in that process, it's good to be realistic.