oh man - just deleted my very long post...

any thanks all very very helpful! taking it all on board.

Ultramarina, just edited my pot to say she isn't passionate about piano - music is def up there, my error. She wants to play trumpet but we can't get her lessons until her mouth is more developed. She does greatly enjoy the class. I could push her by getting her private instruction but she likes the slower group class instead.

I think the thing I find challenging is that if I let her have her way she would do anything and everything, she loves classes!She loves to tell people she's a classy girl which she finds hilarious considering the double meaning.

Just great to know I'm not the only one who stresses about all of this.