In a way I could have posted this in 2E, but DD10 has no diagnosis, though she is a little ADHD...ish.
DD takes a long time (sometimes, hours) to do her homework. To be fair, she gets a lot of it. She also usually does an extremely good job--but this is part of the problem. She will be overly meticulous and careful when this is not totally necessary (note--she is a straight A student, so this does pay off for her). It's not she is intensely perfectionist, but she is a striver and does like things just so. Also, and this is more the problem, she is a daydreamer (often found noodling around, doodling, or starting into space), she is spent at the end of the day, and she gets too much work.
So far this has been managed through rather strict rules and scaffolding (HW must be started by X time and finished by X time, no screentime till it's done, I check on her a lot). But I am tired of this and she needs to self-manage more. Thoughts on how to remove the scaffolding gently?
