Wow--really great advice from master of none here. I wish I had read something like it when my DD was in K and we were hitting our heads against a very similar wall. (Yes, she spent all of K reading "The rat has a pan.") I pushed to the point I felt comfortable with and then we bailed on that school --also a charter, btw, and also very lockstep. I have come to think that bigger schools may be better for these kids. They're more likely to have seen a kid like XYZ and have dealt with more outside the box situations.
