Just a quick comment for tonight on
Raoul, nobody with any sense believes that about mothers and so forth. That is 1950s pseudoscience. I am appalled that a professional said that to you.
Well believe it or not, in France, it is not a specialist but most specialists who say this kind of stupid things to parents who are already so anxious and desperate... I just simply hate them now. Most of psychologists do not even know about neuroscience and believe that Freud or Lacan said everything possible concerning human nature ... I am speaking of nowadays and not of 50 years ago... I had to face psychologists who assured us that giftedness is just a parental construction ... I am used to be on a French forum on ADHD and almost every family started their obstacle course by such experience with psychologist just making families guilty. And it can last very very long. For us, it lasts "only" something like 18 months, but some families can be followed in French official institution without any diag (ADHD, giftedness, ASperger, ...) for years and years.
Moreover, shrinks (a word learnt in Woody Allen's moovies :)) are not the only one. You can find about half of the OTs who are of psycholanalytic obedience
Concerning Austism, I do not know if in the US, you heard about the movie "le mur" (The Wall in English ... nothing to do with Pink Flyod...) but it is very typical of how stupid some shrinks can be ... . SIaSL also wrote about that movie too in her last answer.
Well, I'll try tomorrow to write about what interests me : my DS and your once again very interesting answers (many of you could be better than the large majority of French psychologists ....
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