polarbear, yes, that sounds very familiar, thought DD does not have PTSD. However, she has always been super intense. I have actually been skipping the math drill sometimes because she doens't need it...however, she knows she is supposed to be doing it, so it bothers her to skip it.

I would say that the teacher could not realistically say that the homework load could be anything less than 45 minutes, and more likely an hour. And DD never needs to study spelling and completes her math worksheets very fast, so for many kids it may be more.