I have just been thinking a lot about these issues of gifted girls fitting in lately--there was an article in the NYT about Greek life on college campuses. My experience in a sorority was generally positive, but I still don't think it is something I would encourage for my dds. I think one of the reasons it was so attractive to me was because I was not secure in my identity--if I had been familiar with giftedness and how it made me who I am(that it was more than an IQ score) it would have made a difference.
Of course this is a universal issue and our kids need to experiment to find their identities. I just don't think the popular culture has the answers, and again the book Hold On To Your Kids has made me much more aware of the importance of parents rather than peers.
