How to get closure as 2e gifted?
FrameistElite
02/14/25 04:29 AM
Warning - a large rant
I am an 18 year old from a large city outside the US. For as long as I could remember school was mind-numbingly easy (from kindergarten). I was almost normal until 6-8, when I slowly became more hyperactive/impulsive. In hindsight, I had my procrastination, time management, organization, mental effort and similar issues. I simply either personally compensated, got away with it, or parents gave me lots of scaffolding. I had various conflicts later, for reasons (like what they called "behavior problems", trying to grade skip.
I had to privately study exams so I could get into university early (I left that university for personal reasons - problems with establishment from them, bad course, etc.). The schools were too inflexible and my parents worse than ambivalent. Some teachers tried to save me and I thank them for it.
I got diagnosed with ADHD hyperactive type and inattention issues some months ago. In hindsight I should've been diagnosed at 9-11 when I was too talkative, too fidgety (not repetitive), too much running in hallways/other places, too loud in leisure activities (misinterpreted as voice control problem by some doctor), often on the go (although sometimes surprisingly productive - "channeled" hyperactivity), impatient (various times rushing people). I sometimes interrupted too, although I sometimes manage to present it in a way such that it was more acceptable. It still caused significant social issues - bullied for it, not many friends, many people didn't like me.
Yes, I was still valedictorian, smartest in class (probably should've been grade skipped then), but there were clearly clinically significant overactivity/impulsiveness and the executive functioning problems that were overlooked.
I want to stop feeling like I failed, even though most of my issues were from other people being terrible. Any tips on advocating for people in similar situations to grade skip (I have an online server where I tutor people)? Having good friends/family who support you?
Are these decent ways to find closure for the trauma and issues I faced?
Last but not least, any ways to avoid many misunderstandings (when I was a young teen I was even thought to be "autistic" by some teachers and a few doctors, in hindsight only someone who wanted to fit everything into the autism "spectrum" could've done it)? E.g. some people in my life claimed I had "voice control problems" even though I was simply pretty active and almost nobody else complained.
