Grinity,
No, they aren't willing to do the IQ testing now, no matter what. I think they are so overwhelmed by his medical needs that they are having a hard time seeing him as a whole person.
I read your post to my husband and we do agree that we have to do this quickly. We will be setting up an appointment for his birthday with the gifted teacher and district coordinator.
btw, I love your footer!
Glad you like the footer - DS14 is on a big Kurt Vonnegut, Jr. kick currently! Have you read Harrison Bergeron? Not to scare you, but..
Is there a law that there are to be no testing and no meetings about acceleration before the 6th birthday. If not I would put a request for WISC IV testing in writting, and ask to schedule a meeting to review the IOWA acceleration scale results in February. Be pleasant but firm. I get that they want the best for you son, remind them that meeting academic needs helps support social and emotional growth - it isn't an either or sort of thing.
Putting it in writing makes the whole thing move more smoothly - no matter what they say verbally, once you write it down on real paper and deliver it 'for his file,' ccing everyone in sight, it becomes a different matter entirely. I'm not sure why, it just often is the case. Whenever they disagree you respond with 'Thanks so much for your consern, I'm so grateful for the care you've given my son. Now please explain exactly why it needs to be as you've outlined.'
Expect to have to do that 1000 times, and to need chocolate afterwards. If your DH is in agreement, and can come to the meetings personally, that also sends the 'we are united and serious' message.
Good luck,
Grinity