Gifted Issues Discussion homepage Forums Twice Exceptional Regrets or doubts on getting assessment/eval/dx?

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My husband resisted having DS12 tested at all, because he was afraid of the stigma that goes along with LDs and didn't want Son to have that "hanging over his head" forever.

Luckily, this problem was resolved when DS tested into the GT middle school program, because it suddenly didn't matter to Hubby if his GIFTED son had LDs (insert my eyeroll here).

Hubby and I still go round and round with each other and with the school about accommodations and Son's needs (Hubby doesn't think Son's work should be "reduced" because he's of the "he needs to do the same work as everyone else or he'll never learn any character or work ethic" school of thought), but I am so grateful that Son's needs have been identified, because now I can HELP him. I know what the problems are and I can research them and put a plan in place to keep him on track and keep all of us from getting so frustrated.

I'm just glad I am the one available when the school meetings are held.

I don't know if my daughter was misdiagnosed or not. I have days when I think she absolutely was, and other days are "oh, heck yeah she's on the spectrum!" Probably that means she really belongs there, and has developed significant coping skills. (Not to that mention asynchronous development isn't as glaring at 12 as it is at 3 or 4.) But again, the label isn't in use so much since we're not in a formal school setting.